What an Onion Has to Do with Your Leadership Habits—and How It Leads to Lasting Change

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What an Onion Has to Do with Your Leadership Habits—and How It Leads to Lasting Change My experience has shown that leaders—and people in general—rarely make real progress without a defining, often disruptive moment. Sometimes it even takes a deep personal or professional crisis for change to begin. And even that is no guarantee. This insight raises three key questions: 👉 Why is it so easy to hold on to habits that limit our success and happiness? 👉 Why is it so hard to develop habits that boost our success and bring us joy? 👉 How can we achieve lasting change in our leadership behavior? Anyone who wants to change habits usually works, consciously or not, with goals: becoming a better listener, making decisions faster, running a marathon. And there they are—our goals. Maybe written in a notebook, mapped out in an annual plan, or pinned to an office wall. But sticking with them for more than a few days? That’s where most of us struggle. How do you break that cycle—and what does it have to do with an onion? Find out in my latest newsletter. Are you working toward goals right now but struggling to stay on track? #Leadership #Coaching #Habits #Goals #LeadershipBehavior #Identity #LeadershipIdentity

What an Onion Can Teach You About Lasting Leadership Habits

Leaders know that improving their daily leadership behavior has a huge impact on their professional success. Yet experience shows that most people don’t make significant progress without a defining moment that forces change. This raises three essential questions:

👉 Why is it so easy to hold on to habits that limit our success and happiness?
👉 Why is it so hard to develop habits that increase success and joy?
👉 How can we achieve lasting change in leadership behavior?

We often tackle habits through goals—for example, becoming a better listener or communicating more clearly. But even with well-written goals, many leaders abandon them after a few days when everyday pressures take over. The missing link is understanding that change happens on three levels, like the layers of an onion.


The Three Layers of Change

1. Outcome Level
This is the outer layer and focuses on results, such as stronger leadership presence or quicker decision-making.

2. Process Level
The middle layer is about the systems and routines that drive those results—like new meeting structures or a deliberate coaching rhythm for your team.

3. Identity Level
At the core lies identity: the beliefs and self-image that shape who you want to become.
Results show what you achieve. Processes define what you do. Identity reveals what you believe.


The Secret to Lasting Change

Most people stay stuck at the outcome level, which clashes with their current self-image. To make habits stick, you must move inward:

Example: You set a goal to run a marathon (Outcome) and train three times a week (Process). Once the race is over, the motivation fades—unless you’ve also embraced the identity of a “vital, energetic runner.” Strong identity goals keep the habit alive long after the event.

Leaders who connect new behaviors to who they are becoming—not just what they want to achieve—are far more likely to sustain change and avoid slipping back.


Building a New Leadership Identity

Many leaders resist identity change, assuming that better communication or clearer decision-making alone will define them. But real transformation happens when new habits become part of their leadership identity:

“I am the kind of leader who listens deeply and acts decisively.”

This inner shift creates lasting motivation and consistency.

If you’re ready to reshape your leadership habits from the inside out, explore Die Heldenreise einer Führungskraft – wie du als Leaderin die beste Version deiner selbst wirst*, where I share practical, proven methods to align daily actions with your true leadership identity.

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